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Make Way for a Different Kind of Thinking

Sunday, October 11th, 2009

I distinctly recall when Nathan began seeing me for counseling.  He was a skinny, sensitive kid with a big heart.  At age 13, he struggled in the midst of a tumultuous custody battle that left emotional scars.  My job was to prop him up – to give him hope that things would change for the better – and they did.

Nathan came back to see me three years after he had “graduated” from therapy.  He brought his new guitar and treated me to few melodies in the privacy of my own office.  He was serenading me – it was a gift for being there for him.  However, Nathan’s visit took on a more important purpose.  He came to tell me, in so many words, how he had become a different kind of thinker – the type of young person who inevitably would change the very foundations upon how we view matter and energy and life itself.  At age 16, Nathan had graduated from a college preparatory high school and made his way to a prestigious university to study nanotechnology.

As I intently listened, Nathan explained that nanotechnology will allow us to snap together the fundamental building blocks of nature more easily, more cost effectively, and in a way that is permitted through the laws of physics.  Nanotechnology has the ability to transform our thinking about science, physical health and disease, emotional well-being, computer programming, and travel to outer space.  Not only was Nathan “studying” this complex, molecular thinking, but he was actually conducting research with the world’s greatest scientists in this technological field.

Like an H. G. Wells of his time, Nathan passionately projected what the world would look like in the next 15 years due to his work.  His words seemed prophetic and powerful, and I sense that I was sitting before one of a new age of young people – the dreamers, the problem-solvers, the visionaries who would create a new way of thinking about thinking.  These are not “egg-heads,” but balanced, well-rounded kids who have the capacity to not only reflect on problems but to communicate about how the world will dramatically change due to their influence.

Nathan represents an influx of thinkers among thinkers, who will quietly work behind the scenes to make things happen.  These are not our future leaders or managers, but those who empty themselves of all internal clutter or preconceived notions about how the world works.  By staying open to the truth, wherever they may find it, new, exciting discoveries will be made that will impact all aspects of the human condition.

Like Nathan, our future thinkers can recognize the qualities and significance of emptiness.  They can handle the perplexing nature of uncertainty and ambiguity.  They understand that there are multiple dimensions to any problem with conflicting and paradoxical meanings.  They are willing to surrender conventional notions about how the world works in order to make room for the new.  By cutting a path through the clutter and letting go of a traditional means of thinking, these talented young people will open themselves up to what Robert Schuller referred to as, “possibility thinking.”  In the midst of all the incivility and strife that we are faced with, Nathan will make a difference.  He has not forgotten what it was like to stand face to face at a young age with problems that were bigger than he was capable of solving.  He will use that experience to empower and propel him in a direction to bring peace as he thinks about and humbly solves problems that raise hope and healing for all humanity.

How to help your child with homework?

Sunday, October 11th, 2009

It is estimated that parents spend an average of six hours a week on helping their children with homework. If you show interest and give support early on, it will encourage your child to develop positive attitudes to learning, in and out of school.

You will benefit, too. You’ll get to know your child’s particular strengths and difficulties and you will also find out what he’s studying. Your child’s school will also gain by having motivated pupils and well-informed parents who are fully involved with their children’s education.

As your child gets older, of course, he needs to become more independent. Helping your child to get organized, providing equipment and a quiet place to work and offering lots of encouragement will get him off to the right start.

Most schools also issue a homework diary where children write down what they have been set and when it is due. You should check it every week (and sign it if the school asks you to).

How to help

  • · Make sure you are familiar with any school guidelines on homework.
  • · Ask the school for copies of any leaflets about supporting children at home.
  • · Watch out for school newsletters advertising parents’ subject sessions. These are really useful for learning about modern teaching methods.
  • · Nominate somewhere at home as a homework area. It needs a flat surface, a good light source and resources such as pens, pencils, rulers, scissors, glue, dictionary and notebook to hand.
  • · Set up a daily routine. Plan a homework timetable so you both know what your child needs to do and when. If your child is at secondary school he will probably be told which subject teacher will set homework on each day.
  • · It’s a good idea if your child has a break and something to eat before starting on homework.
  • · Ask your child to explain the homework task and how it follows on from what he was studying at school.
  • · Be interested and be on hand to talk to your child about what he has learnt so far.
  • · Help your child to become an independent learner. Explain how to look up information or find a word in a dictionary rather than simply giving an answer in order to get the task finished.
  • · Don’t be tempted to teach your child methods you used at school.
  • · Turn off the television while homework is underway but do let your child listen to music if he finds it helpful.
  • · Use home/school books to note how your child tackles the task, what is done well and where he has difficulties. (Remember, your child is probably one of 30 so keep your comments brief!) Read carefully any comments that your child’s teacher makes in return.
  • · Discourage your child from copying when he’s asked to do research tasks. Talk about the information together, work out the key facts and help your child to write these down as brief notes.
  • · Be positive about your child’s attempts. If you have concerns about his progress, make an appointment with the school.
  • · Don’t let homework become a chore. Make it a special time that you both look forward to.

A word of warning: Schools are extremely keen that parents become fully involved in their children’s education but please don’t be tempted to correct homework and make your child copy it out. Schools need to know how much your child understands and can do independently.

All children by nature have a musical brain

Sunday, October 11th, 2009

The children’s brain in Primary School is biologically musical. The embryo in the third month can hear and remember musical patterns and can associate them with feelings which they provoke. As infant he or she has developed to a certain extent musical skills. Studies have shown that what makes the difference is the way in which musicality can be developed in the environment in which a child grows up. For example, the parents’ musical preferences, as well as if the child is involved in Music from earliest years and with a teacher suitable for this, influence decisively the musical education the child will receive. Studies show that the earliest contact with music studies improves significantly the development of an already musical mind. Indeed this influence does not relate only to the development of musical skills but also to different skills related to sciences and arts. This proposal aims at the description and analysis of views of neuromusical researchers about the extent to which a child’s musical abilities constitute an innate imperative but also can be developed by the teaching itself.